Soul mate compatibility assessment, a truly compatible soul mate

Evaluation of Soul Partner Compatibility

: Zha Shaoyi Psychological Assessment

Data: Assessment of Soul Partner Compatibility

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Many people seem to be a little pessimistic about love. They may be together because they are afraid of empty windows, or even panic when they get older, so they just make do with each other, just like two people who are afraid of being alone. People huddle together for warmth. As for whether I love it or not, I really haven’t thought about it too much.

Therefore, many people will wonder, what exactly is a soulmate? Is it the light that shines on each other when spirits meet as Xu Zhimo said, or the harmony of Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang, or the platonic love that transcends time and space in the novel.

Today, we use data to talk about what it’s like to meet a “spirit mate” and some of the truths about “spirit mates” that everyone wants to know.

-01- What exactly is a “spiritual companion”?

(1) "Countless tacit understanding"

Speaking of soul mates, many people will talk about a feeling of "understanding", which is a tacit understanding, even if you don't Say, he also understands. He knows your intentions behind every move, your mood after every choice, and even your expectations behind every expression.

There was a teacher in college. He and his wife had a deep love for each other. The word "understanding" was revealed in their eyes and actions.

Both of them are in their early 50s and have been married for many years. The teacher is talkative and cheerful, and the teacher's wife is shy and kind. After several contacts with them, I felt that they had too many similarities.

Their expressions are similar, they like to be simple and clear, don’t like to talk nonsense, and don’t like unnecessary politeness; when they smile, their eyes narrow and their eyes shine, as innocent as children; even their dressing styles are similar. Simple and elegant, giving people a clean and refreshing feeling.

Once I was invited to a teacher’s house for dinner. I cooked the food myself and prepared a table of delicious food. When she tasted one of the dishes, the teacher's wife frowned slightly. Before she could say anything, the teacher already understood it and took the dish back to the kitchen to process it again. < /p>

After dinner, my wife wanted to give me one of Jane’s books, but she forgot where she put it. The teacher was brushing his teeth at that time. He looked at the teacher's wife who was walking around and said something like "ūààááèǐ". Then the wife found the book on the bedside table and said, "Look, my memory is really not as good as yours."

It turns out that the sentence "ūààááèǐ" means "The book is on the bedside table." "I really feel convinced at this moment!

Another time they were studying literature, and the differences and differences in each other’s concepts allowed me to see an interactive fusion. When the two of them were chatting, I seemed to feel that they were talking to their own souls, just like Boya and Ziqi met their close friends in the mountains and flowing water, and Yang Jiangqian Zhongshu and the music of the harp and harp never got tired of playing for a long time.

Medjandi Nelson said:

“Meeting a soulmate is like walking into a house where you have lived before— You know the furniture, the paintings on the walls, the books on the shelves, the things in the drawers. If you fall into darkness in this house, you can still move around freely."

That is the spirit. There is a high degree of compatibility, there is me in you and you in me. This is the most natural state of each other. You have already seen through me, just like I have seen through you.

(2) "The similarities make me a better version of myself"

Some people say that spiritual partners live like each other, and the more similarities, the better. Actually no, if an "other me" appears that is infinitely close to you, what do you need is a partner or "yourself"?

A friend has been dating a boyfriend for 3 months. When he first fell in love, he was so excited that he had met his spiritual mate:

“It’s amazing that there are people so similar to me in the world. Siamese. Our hobbies are surprisingly similar, and so are our tastes. I’ve seen him in all the places he’s traveled to, and they’re so similar, but we don’t like spicy food or coriander? Where can I find such a highly unified person? ! ”

But three months later, she said aggrievedly that being with him was too boring, the two of them were too similar, and it was like falling in love with another person.

"We have surprisingly similar views on things, but I long for the feeling of collision of different ideas. For example, I was deeply touched after watching a movie, and I wanted to talk to him. But I also felt that he and I I think about the same thing, but I can’t come up with anything new, and I don’t want to talk anymore. Even when we quarrel, I like to be cold and violent. I ignore him, and he ignores me. It’s so boring! Is it defined as "tacit understanding"?

No, a good relationship will allow both parties to grow. My friend saw only sex in her relationship but no growth.

In "Assassin Nie Yinniang", King Binbin kept a Luan bird for 3 years, but it never chirped once. Even if it was equipped with a golden birdcage and served with various delicacies, it would not turn into gold. mouth.

His wife heard that birds will sing when they see their own kind. You can hang a mirror so that they can see themselves and they may sing.

King Jibin did as he was told, but Qingluan screamed sadly when he saw the shadow, danced in the mirror and died. Qingluan feels that the same kind of people should not be exactly the same as themselves, and people are not the same. Rather than meeting someone with whom we are inseparable, we would rather meet someone who is slightly different from ourselves, discover the wonders of the world with each other, and feel the collision of different spirits.

Similarities attract each other. For example, a quiet person may be attracted to a lively person, whose vitality and agility are beyond their reach. Similarly, a lively person may find a quiet person attractive. People who are bound by rules may envy the unruly spirit?

The differences allow each other to discover a larger world. You like photography, he likes music, you show him how to switch lenses, and he takes you into the world of music. You approach each other step by step, try to extend your tentacles, and meet and connect in the most vulnerable parts.

(3) "I can't help but long to be close to him or her."

Many people say that every time they meet their soulmate, the current of true love rushes to every nerve in the body and every cell. Couldn't help but cheer. I can't help but want to get close to him and share everything with him.

A friend described her soul partner this way:

“Every time I meet him, the flame of love will instantly radiate high heat and strong light into the dark universe. And when we part ways At this time, my heart aches again, and the beauty and pain continue."

My friend's description is a bit exaggerated, but your spiritual companion will indeed ignite you, and it will not be a flash of lightning, even if it takes time. After a long time, the heart that wants to be close will not change.

-02- Several discoveries about "spiritual partners"

Boys believe more in the existence of "spiritual partners"

In everyone According to expectations, girls may be more emotional and pay more attention to spiritual needs, so they believe more in the existence of spiritual partners. And data shows that boys actually believe more in the existence of spiritual partners! I prefer to believe in this fleeting, vague feeling.

In addition, compared to boys, girls are more likely to choose not to wait for their spiritual partners to appear. This does not mean that they are not looking forward to his appearance, but the cost of waiting for girls is higher.

Those born in the 1990s least believe in meeting "spiritual partners"

Young people born in the 2000s believe more in the existence of "spiritual partners" and those with less emotional experience They retain their beautiful expectations and are more willing to believe in the dream lover in their sweet dreams.

Compared to those born in the 80s and 70s, those born in the 1990s do not believe in the existence of "spiritual partners". Perhaps in the era of free love, those born in the 1990s are more casual. , so I don’t even want to believe in the slightly illusory term spiritual partner.

In terms of "are you willing to wait for your spiritual partner?", the younger the person, the more willing he is to wait, because he has the time and capital to wait. As the age increases and the experience increases, the more willing the person is to wait. Come less and less.

Don’t use the inability to find a “spiritual partner” as an excuse for being single

Will people who have never been in love believe more in the existence of a spiritual partner?

Not really.

Data shows that people who have been in love 1-3 times are more likely to believe it.

The possible explanation is: people who have been in love 1-3 times are trying the honey of love for the first time. They retain their expectations for the beauty of love and are willing to actively seek it out. People who have never been in love have been searching hard to no avail, and people who have been in love many times and have experienced ups and downs in their relationships will have a more realistic understanding of their soul mates and less fantasy.

People who are single at birth are more willing to wait for the emergence of a spiritual partner, and perhaps hope that their first love will be their spiritual partner. As the number of relationships increases, fewer people choose to wait for their spiritual partner to appear.

Spirit mates do not necessarily mean love at first sight

Regarding the appearance of spirit mates, most people are in the middle ground. They believe in love at first sight and love over time. .

Only 8.19% of people believe that soul mates can only be created by the spark of a glance, while more people believe that two people can run into each other like gears and not fall in love at first sight to become soul mates.

Is your partner a soul mate?

Not everyone thinks that their partner is a spiritual mate. Only 25.71% are sure that they are, while 45.50% think that the other person is not.

So here comes the question: If you think the other person is not your soul mate, will you leave decisively?

Most people believe that it is more important for two people to experience, grow and get along together, rather than to seek a spiritual partner at the expense of the near and far. Only 9.15% choose to break up decisively to pursue true love, and 27.1% are struggling with the swinging balance.

-03- Written at the end

In this huge world, it is already difficult for two people to meet and fall in love, let alone become soulmates.

This reminds me of the simple comic "The Lost Corner". The circle is searching for the missing corner. After finally finding it, it is found that it cannot go with it. It is a mixture of perfection and shortcomings. It keeps searching.

People are like many fragments, and soul mates are the attraction and combination of other fragments. Some pieces are mutually exclusive and impossible to join together, while other pieces miraculously attract each other and fit together naturally.

When the pieces are put together to form a new whole, you will feel like you have met your spiritual partner. It may be difficult to find pieces that fit together perfectly, but please believe that time will polish it into a spiritual match.

A lot of things that you can’t understand despite a thousand words can be understood with just one look. Have you met your "spiritual partner"?

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