Allow parents to allow their children to travel within a short period of time

Many parents are unwilling to take their children with them when traveling. According to observation and understanding, the reasons are very straightforward and generally include the following:

1. Unable to remember. Children who are too young will not be able to remember anything they see, and it will be a waste of money and energy;

2. Danger. Children tend to get sick when going out, are not safe in unfamiliar places, and are not used to eating and playing well;

3. Trouble. When you go out to carry a lot of children's things, the adults also have to take care of the children. It's too tiring to spend time with the children and they don't have much fun.

Now, let’s see if these reasons hold up.

First of all, the first saying "it's all in vain" is the most common.

I have a middle school classmate who comes from a good family. After graduating from college, he stayed in his hometown to work. After a few years, he wanted to go to the south to make a living, but he was unable to make the trip. Later, I heard that the biggest reason why he did not dare to go to the south turned out to be that he had never left his hometown and was afraid of taking the train alone.

I don’t want to say absolutely that his fate was restricted by not traveling when he was a child. However, if he had traveled before, at least he would not be afraid of taking trains, unfamiliar environments, or lose the courage to change his life because of fear.

I am particularly afraid of my parents’ “theory of usefulness”. For example, playing the piano is useful, playing with clay is useless, learning ice hockey is useful, hide and seek is useless, cram school is useful, playing house is useless, playing Go is useful, and playing with building blocks is useless. Used...

According to the theory of usefulness, traveling is just for fun. It can’t pass the exam, it doesn’t have a certificate, it can’t add points, and it can’t be considered a specialty. Of course it is useless. It's not worth the time and effort.

As a child grows up, knowledge of Chinese, English, mathematics, and skills in piano, art, and gymnastics are hard skills; character, sentiment, vision, psychology, etc. are soft skills. Just like a computer, the hardware is important, but the core competitiveness is actually the software. Soft power is the most important and core factor that can most influence development and create a happy life.

Yes, this is the second reason that troubles parents, danger. When traveling, there will be accidents and risks. There will be meals that you are not used to, there will be buses that you can’t wait for, there will be stumblings, you will even get sick and have stitches... But, isn’t this the purpose of traveling? Don’t we want our children to be stronger, don’t we want our children to be able to deal with difficulties, don’t we want our children to mature and grow?

Travel is such an irreplaceable growth course. Almost all parents, after traveling with their children, will find that their children have changed a lot in a short period of time - this is the charm and magic of travel.

Finally, for parents who find it troublesome, I would like to say that traveling is the best time to strengthen family cohesion. Usually, I am busy at work, in a bad mood, and have no time to spend with my family and children. But now I have a complete period of time with my family, without being tied down by work. How sweet and comfortable it is.

Of course, if you are constantly checking your mailbox to reply to emails, and sending WeChat messages during conference calls while traveling, you will indeed find your children troublesome and annoying. Just goes to show that the problem with family travel is the adults, not the kids. What needs to be changed is the mentality and practices of parents.

Next, let’s talk about the benefits of traveling with children, where they are and how big they are. I think it can be roughly divided into three lessons.

“Lesson 1, Diverse Values ??Lesson

When it comes to the benefits of traveling, many people will mention that it can train children’s independence and autonomy, learn knowledge about multiple cultures, etc. etc. Indeed, these are the benefits of traveling with children. But what I want to say is the establishment of children’s diverse values.

There is one special thing in a person’s life. The big enemy needs us to destroy it. Its name is "narrowness". For a country, it will lead to isolation; for a nation, it will lead to arrogance; for a person, it will lead to self-righteousness. The result is backwardness, arrogance, and ignorance.

I still remember that Lu Xun vividly described narrow-mindedness in his portrait of Chinese people: "Use three words." A stool made of a three-inch-wide wooden board was called a "bench" by the Weichuang people, and he also called it a "bench", but the city people called it a "bar stool". He thought: This is wrong, ridiculous! When frying big-headed fish, Weizhuang always adds half-inch green onion leaves, but in the city they add finely shredded green onions. He thought: This is also wrong, ridiculous! However, the people of Weichuang are really ridiculous country people who have never seen the world. They have never seen fried fish in the city!

I think that everything from religious conflicts to national strife and ethnic hatred to neighborhood disputes and fights between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are all related to their respective narrow values. If we solve the problem that everyone can fry fish, cut green onions, and sit on stools according to their own preferences, the world will be peaceful, the country will be prosperous, and the people will be safe.

So, how to let children have diverse values? One is reading, and the other is traveling. If you read thousands of books but cannot stop reading, you are a fool; if you travel thousands of miles but cannot travel in vain, you are a peddler. When reading, you must learn to think, and when traveling, you must also travel deeply. Only when the two are combined can it really work.

“Lesson 2, Diverse World Views Lesson

Travel is the best and most intuitive way for us to see the real world and real life. Many times , the things we are accustomed to and commonplace are not naturally what they should be.

Traveling is to let us know that there are places fifty, five hundred, or five thousand miles away from where we live. , what are the mountains there like, what are the waters there like, what are the houses there like, what are the people there... the most important thing is what kind of life there is.

When I was working as a reporter in Guangzhou, I once went to the mountainous area in northern Guangdong, which is only a hundred or two hundred kilometers away from Guangzhou. What I couldn’t imagine was that the children there didn’t even have a pair of shoes to wear in winter. You have to walk more than ten kilometers on mountain roads every day to go to school. This is part of the real world.

Similarly, in the early morning in the German countryside, you can see an old man with white hair under the dense rose arcade. Holding a thick book in hand and reading; in Nepal, you can see people who live in simple and plain clothes, get up every morning, with a satisfied smile, go to worship gods and pray; in Japan, you can see the arrival of the train according to the to adjust your watch according to the time; in France, you will also make an appointment for a driver who is an hour late and gently tells you not to worry; in Thailand, children will seriously ask you whether the ladyboy goes to the men's or women's restroom. , in Paris, you will see flight attendants on strike while drinking coffee...

These are the real lives of people from different regions, different beliefs, different cultures, and different customs. All of this. What you see with your own eyes, hear with your own ears, the actions of the other person, the eyes of the other person, and the inner communication of the other person are all things that cannot be experienced at home.

"The third lesson, multiple outlooks on life. Class

Travel also makes people aware of the diversity of life forms and the endless possibilities of life. The preciousness of life lies in its diversity and its endless possibilities.

There are hundreds of millions of living things, including more than 15,000 species of ants alone. Human life, in just a few decades, should also have unlimited possibilities. Traveling is the best way to know this secret in life. Many people have discovered the true meaning of life and found where their souls belong during their travels.

I like Peter Mayer’s trip from New York to Provence. Later, he changed the trajectory of his life and lived in seclusion here with his wife and two dogs; I also like Hesse’s trip in southern Switzerland. Later, he settled in the small village of Ticino there. He lived in a corner, but wrote words that influenced the world. I also like that when Goethe traveled in the Thuringian forest area of ??Germany, he hunted the walls of small wooden buildings on the top of the Kickelhan Mountain. On top, the famous work handed down from generation to generation - "The Wanderer's Song" was painted.

Some are good, some are bad, some are familiar, some are strange, some are understandable, and some are puzzling. Every place has its beauty and ugliness; just like any person, he also has his loveliness and shortcomings.

I believe that few people cannot feel the greatness of nature and the insignificance of life at the foot of the magnificent snow-capped mountains; and few people, after broadening their horizons and strengthening their minds, will still Anyone who cares about everything will be rewarded.

When a person understands the different ways of living life, he will not become a machine that only makes money, he will not only think that a certain way of life is the best, and he will not just When he obeys a voice, he will not just do what others tell him to do...that is to say, he begins to become a new person with his own thinking, his own opinions, his own dignity, and his own pursuits. .

When a person sees all kinds of life on the road, he will naturally think about why others live like this and how I should live. The combination of what you encounter on the journey and your inner thoughts brightens your eyes, fills your spirit, experiences life, and changes your life - this is the greatest meaning of travel.

Travel does not care about the destination. The most important thing is to put aside your daily busyness and enjoy the joy of the holidays with your family.