After marriage, you help me take care of my father so that I can quit my nanny. what do you think?

Golden orange and her boyfriend went to their boyfriend's hometown for the first time, or during the Spring Festival last year. At that time, two people were engaged to get married, and her boyfriend felt that the engagement was also a member of his family, so he strongly requested to take Golden Orange back to his hometown for the New Year.

Boyfriend's mother died early, and there was only one father who was ill in bed. After my boyfriend went to work, he hardly saved any money every month. Apart from all kinds of expenses in big cities, my boyfriend sent most of the money back to his hometown and invited an aunt to take care of his father's diet and daily life.

After so many years, the cost of taking care of my father and nanny has overwhelmed my boyfriend. Anyway, he hopes to get married early. At least in my hometown, after marriage, my daughter-in-law is supposed to serve my in-laws.

Boyfriend has no money. Jin orange is willing to stay with her boyfriend all the time, including Jin orange's parents. What they are interested in is her boyfriend's personality.

They believe that those who can afford to take care of their father all the time will be kind to their daughters in the future.

02.

Their wedding is scheduled for 1 October1National Day. On May Day, my boyfriend took advantage of the holiday and wanted to take Golden Orange back to his hometown.

Golden orange was going to travel with her boyfriend. She knows that her boyfriend has no extra money, and she doesn't want to spend a lot of money at ordinary times. She wants to feel the world of two people and love again before getting married.

Boyfriend promised nothing. After all, it's been half a year, and he hasn't seen his old father at home. He couldn't help worrying. The Golden Orange couldn't bear it, so she decided to give up her trip and go back to her hometown with her boyfriend.

One foot deep and one foot shallow, I changed trains countless times and walked countless mountain roads. I finally came to my boyfriend's hometown for the second time.

Just arrived at the door, the aunt who took care of her father was very excited and said, I happen to have something here, so I can't take care of your father. My daughter-in-law gave birth to a big fat grandson, and I have to go home to help my daughter-in-law take care of the children. I'm leaving in a few days. I wanted to call you, but my mobile phone was flooded. I have been trying to contact you. Just in time for you to come back.

03.

To tell the truth, this aunt took care of her boyfriend's father and did her best. Every time my boyfriend comes back, he sees his father in bed clean and without any peculiar smell. He is also very grateful to this aunt.

It was just that his aunt's sudden departure caught him off guard. He can't find a suitable person now, so he can continue to take care of his father instead of his aunt.

That night, my boyfriend tossed and turned in bed and couldn't sleep for a long time. Kumquat knows it, but there's nothing he can do. She also has to work in the city.

The next day, my boyfriend hugged the panda eye and said that we would get married soon anyway. I've been thinking about my father. Now I will find another aunt to take care of my father. After I get married, I will quit my aunt. I think you will take care of my father full time.

So what do you do? Golden orange asked her boyfriend.

At that time, bring my father to live with us in the city, and you take care of him at home, so that we can save a lot of nanny fees, and then I can make money and work hard.

My boyfriend's eyes lit up, as if he had a certain picture of the future.

Golden orange said coldly, sorry, I can't. I have my own life. I can't give up my career and living conditions in order to take care of your father after marriage.

But this is our hometown. You are unfilial if you don't take care of my father. Others can serve your in-laws, but you can't. Boyfriend also said angrily.

04.

Later, Jin Orange and her boyfriend broke up because they didn't know much about taking care of their father. Golden orange said, is it true that I am unfilial and cold-blooded, or that my boyfriend is asking too much of me and wants me to give up my career and take care of my future father-in-law?

She just wants to know if she did anything wrong. She doesn't know why people who loved her so much at the beginning made such rude demands, but she still took it for granted.

October emotional message:

First of all, I want to congratulate Jin Chen, because she is far away from a man who will kidnap her for life, and even pretends to sacrifice her career just to fulfill her filial reputation.

I remember that family dramas were very popular in the past, even if the in-laws were unkind to their daughters-in-law, they were so unkind. However, when the parents-in-law are sick and need to be taken care of, the daughter-in-law must be with her and be considerate.

I used to think such a woman was really admirable. Now, when I really step into marriage, I realize that no one is qualified to kidnap a woman's married life.

Boyfriend, he doesn't feel wrong, because in their hometown, women have to wait on their parents-in-law after marriage, so he thinks Kumquat is right to quit her aunt and take full-time care of her father in bed.

This should be an old concept in the past. Nowadays, more and more post-80s and post-90s think that parents take care of themselves, and parents take care of themselves, which is very filial. This is one of the ways to avoid conflict.

As Papi sauce said in the variety show, she has been married to Lao Hu for five years and is very filial to her parents. When they go home for the New Year, they also go back to their hometown, find their mother, and live in peace without contradiction.

Therefore, compared with the marriage concept of Papi sauce, Golden Orange should know how outrageous her boyfriend's ideas are.

Of course, it is also necessary to show respect and filial piety to each other's parents after marriage, but only if your own lover is good to you and he is also good to your parents, can you deserve your filial piety and respect to his parents.

Golden orange, you didn't do anything wrong, because a good marriage is not a poverty alleviation marriage, nor is it that you married someone to be a nanny.

But after marriage, you can still keep an independent mind, do what you want to do and become what you want to be, instead of being kidnapped by marriage and morality to do what you don't like.

The most important thing is that even if you get married, your boyfriend is not qualified to ask you to resign and take care of his father. He can do whatever he wants, because it is his responsibility and obligation to give birth to him and give him a loving father, not yours.