What do you think of a 35-year-old leftover woman who is not going to get married for the rest of her life and is now saving money for her old age?

How to live a good life, everyone has his own choice.

Some people will follow the life that everyone thinks is right, while others are maverick and stick to the truth that they think. Who is right or wrong, everyone's judgment is different.

Just like Li, she is such a person. In the eyes of her parents, she has been extremely disappointed with this daughter's practice. 35-year-old Li, who is unmarried and has no object, is a real older woman.

A few years ago, her parents would urge and earnestly persuade her that people would still get married in this life. Now I don't want to say anything because I know this stubborn daughter won't listen to them.

Li has her own ideas. She doesn't mind people saying that she is an older woman, because it is a fact. Her mind is open-minded, and she can say whatever others want, and she can't change others' minds.

The last time I saw Li, she was coming back from road trip and went to grasslands and deserts, and her skin was a little tanned. She looked very happy and said that she saw many different scenery when she went out to play this time, which was worth it.

Li is a person who likes traveling very much. Sometimes she goes alone, and sometimes she chooses to travel with her friends. As long as she is free, she won't stay at home. She can't keep her character.

When she goes out to play, she also likes to go to places with beautiful scenery and few people, but she is not keen on excitement. She said that the older you get, the less you like the hustle and bustle.

Because she often goes out, for convenience, she cuts her hair short and dresses more and more simply. Later, she stopped wearing skirts. Seen from a distance, she looks a bit like a boy.

Sometimes her parents will persuade her to dress herself up, just like before. To put it bluntly, her parents also hope that this 35-year-old daughter can meet the person she loves one day, marry herself and have a family of her own.

Li smiled and said that parents really love to worry.

02

To be fair, Li is a very filial person. When she just graduated, she sent half of her monthly salary to her parents, who were not short of money, but Li said it was her own heart.

In the following years, she often stayed with her parents and sometimes took them out to travel. I can see that her parents are still very happy. Her only disobedience is her refusal to get married.

Her parents said that she was too picky and didn't know what kind of person she liked, but in Li's view, she was just unlucky and didn't meet the person she imagined.

Li has been in love, and has been in love twice, once in college and once after graduation. Li, who was a student, is completely different from her present personality. She is a homesick person, introverted and quiet.

Therefore, when she was in college, she never thought that she could fall in love. In fact, she is not very confident in herself, because she is not good-looking, her skin is not good, her face often has acne, and she was nicknamed by the class in junior high school.

She didn't say anything, but those words seemed to be branded in her heart and never forgotten for many years. She thought that no one would like her so much. However, when she was in college, one of her classmates began to chase her, and they were together after half a year.

Li invested a lot in this relationship. She wanted to go to the end with each other, but before she graduated from college, they separated. It was that boy who said that her personality was inappropriate.

This is really a common reason to break up. Li said that he didn't know what was going on, but he just refused to get back together. Lin was depressed for a long time. She said that she had never loved anyone so wholeheartedly again.

After graduating from college, she met another boy under the introduction of her family. She can't say whether she likes it or not. The other party said that her personality was suitable for marriage, so she fell in love with her.

That boy doesn't seem to like her very much either. Their relationship is cold and distant. They haven't contacted each other for a week at most. Later, it was that boy who broke up.

03

In love, Li has never been the leader. She said it was easy for her to fall in and rip out her heart after falling in. That was the first paragraph, so she broke up.

In the second paragraph, she tried to keep her distance, not wanting to be too active, but also controlling not to like each other too early. As a result, the other person's mentality is also very casual, so they also divided.

Moreover, it was only later that she learned that less than a week after the breakup, the boy announced a new relationship. Li said there seems to be a reason why he didn't contact himself.

Later, she never talked about love again. She introduced many things back and forth at home, and many of them became friends with her, but if they were husband and wife, she said she didn't have that idea.

Friends around her are getting married gradually, and she sometimes envies them, but she doesn't want to cram herself into the marriage with an overly accommodating attitude. Her cousin married a cousin on blind date. Because in a hurry, it is equivalent to a flash marriage. Life is not very good now.

She said that it is not an exaggeration to describe it as a chicken flying a dog jumping. Her cousin often talks with her about all kinds of things. She listened a lot and felt really tired. Cousin even went back to her family from time to time, and some time ago two adults almost got into a fight.

She believes that marriage is based on love.

It doesn't matter whether you know it yourself or on a blind date, whether it's love at first sight or long-term love. If you enter marriage, you must first cultivate love.

She didn't meet, so she didn't want to let herself finish the task of getting married with a reluctant attitude. Later, after friends gradually had families, their focus shifted and they could not often go shopping and eat together.

At this time, she fell in love with a person to travel, and travel also made her whole person cheerful. She said that she could meet many interesting people, listen to their stories and see many different lives.

Finally, she said that people don't have to get married in this life.

04

Accustomed to all kinds of different lives, she seems to be a lot more open-minded. From initial confusion to later anxiety to present calmness, she was in no hurry.

She said she was really worried when she was around 30. On the one hand, she wants to get married, but on the other hand, she is worried about meeting the wrong person. She even thought about getting married first and not getting divorced, so her parents wouldn't be in such a hurry.

But she didn't do it later, and as she grew older, she said that the peak of her inner anxiety stayed at 30 years old. Before the age of 30, anxiety gradually showed an upward trend, and after the age of 30, it began to decline.

Until now, she has become calm and everything goes with the flow. You can't be satisfied if you can't be satisfied.

When asked about her future interruption, she made arrangements for the rest of her life: "I'm not ready to get married, and now I'm saving my pension." After that, he smiled and said, "Be filial to your parents. They are getting older every day."

This is Li's attitude towards life.

In this life, some people say that life without marriage is imperfect, and marriage is a necessity of life; And there are also some people, like Li, who insist on their own insistence and take a completely different road.

Do you think people have to get married all their lives?