Why do other people's children are all "little cotton-padded jackets" and their own children are "baiwenhang"?

It was a pleasant weekend. My son and I went to bask in the quilt on the roof.

I have a basin with a quilt in my hand, and my son naturally helps me hold the clip.

Two girls got into the elevator talking and laughing. There happened to be a mother and daughter going upstairs together in the elevator. When the little sister saw her lovely son, she was embarrassed to speak directly, so she attached it to her mother's ear and said with a smile, "The child is so cute that she will help her." Next time you hang the quilt, I'll help you clip it. "

It was warm, but my mother broke it. The mother glanced at her daughter sideways and said with disdain, "Just you?" Come on! You are so lazy! Last time I asked you to bring me a glass of water, I refused. How can I call you? "

Miss Sister's smiling face froze on her face. On the floor where they arrived, Miss Sister panicked and fled the elevator, and the elevator door was closed. I also heard my mother talk endlessly about her daughter.

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If I were the daughter of that family, I might not help my mother. In fact, many times children are willing to help their parents with housework. Just like that little sister, she would take the initiative to tell her mother to help, but unfortunately she was ruthlessly denied by her mother.

In the case just now, my mother could have said, "well, I knew you didn't help me with the water glass last time." You should help me the next time my mother needs your help. "

Even if she doesn't help you this time, if you help her wear a "top hat" several times, she will naturally be embarrassed not to help you.

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Many parents are puzzled why they are kind to their children, but they still have a "baiwenhang". In fact, many times the "baiwenhang" is raised by parents themselves. We don't mean to ask children to help us do anything, but to make them feel grateful, realize that life is not easy, and let them learn to be considerate of their parents and others.

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My friend Xiao Jing has done a good job in this respect.

Although Xiao Jing's son is mischievous and lively, he is a warm boy through and through.

Xiao Jing's son, like all little boys, is also the kind of master who can't stop playing. It is not easy for him to help set the dishes or get a hanger.

However, Xiao Jing never criticized her son. Instead, he praised him appropriately when he finally did a small thing.

For example, if Xiao Jing needs her son to help move the stool, she will ask him for help. If he doesn't want to, she won't insist, get angry and be scolded. If her son helps, she will say, "Thank you. It's just that my mother is very tired today. Your help has relaxed me a lot. "

I asked Xiao Jing suspiciously: won't you spoil the bad children like this? Won't you be angry if he doesn't help?

Xiaojing smiled. She said that she was not sure at first, but once she got sick, her son's performance strengthened her practice.

Xiaojing said:

Once I caught a bad cold and went home from work and slept in my clothes without dinner.

The son hurried to ask her what was going on. Why don't you eat?

Xiaojing told him that I had a cold, needed a rest, and had no appetite to eat.

Then the son touched Xiao Jing's forehead and said,

Mom, you have a fever,

I'll get you a glass of water,

Do you want to take medicine?

I'll send the meal to my room so that I can stay with you and you won't feel so bad.

After that, the son helped her to cover the quilt intimately and brought her water to drink. Although water is cold water, although her son jumped up and down on the bed to help her cover the quilt, which made her fidgety, Xiao Jing knew that her son was imitating her practice of taking care of her son, which made her particularly moved.

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Perhaps most people think that children can only make trouble and don't understand their parents' hard work, but how can parents know the meaning behind their children's naughty behavior? Others may think that Xiao Jing's son can't give his mother a quiet rest environment, but Xiao Jing sees a good child who cares about and takes care of his mother.

Therefore, it is not that our children are "baiwenhang", but that we have failed to understand their clever and delicate hearts.

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