All "demands" are "prisoners"

Because we came out of the jungle, although we shed our hair, put on beautiful clothes and sat in high-rise buildings, the jungle law in genetic inheritance allows us to live in control and anti-control. Whether in the relationship between husband and wife, parent-child relationship, team relationship or any other relationship, we will involuntarily enter the "I am right, you have to listen to me" mode, and we hope that others will live as we expect. As a result, the harder I try to control everything and keep all aspects of my life on the "right track", the easier it is for me to be controlled by everything around me and get out of control and get angry.

You want blue sky and white clouds every day, and the unpredictable weather controls your mood;

You want to control the attitude of others towards you, and his eyes and words can control your emotions;

You want to control your child's obedience, and every sprout of his self-awareness makes you anxious. ...

If you want to control your team partner, he won't cooperate in various ways. You tried to suppress, but you pressed the gourd and got the gourd ladle. ...

So we are controlled by our own desire for control. If you can perceive this, the only way is to accept it, so that the other party feels that Ta is right, and you also feel that you have the means and resources. ...

The most troublesome thing is that you shout for acceptance every day, but you are between words, controlling each other with your eyes and manners, and manipulating others with your emotions, without your knowing it. This is the reason why our relationship has problems!

So the best way is to let others think that Ta is always right, and you will always have a way!