A few really eloquent examples

Whether you can chat has nothing to do with IQ, introversion and extroversion, or even whether you have a wide range of knowledge. The key is to be bold and attentive, release yourself and accept others. Here are a few cases of really good eloquence that I collected for you, hoping to help you.

First, on different occasions, I will have a chat with the big coffees.

There are always some people who can find a topic quickly no matter who they meet, and then they will dig their brains to make you feel that the feeling of chatting with them can only be described in one word, and that is cool! Here, we invite celebrities to speak for us and personally demonstrate how to do it on different occasions. Can chat? .

Instantly close the distance

Michelle? Obama: Make the other person feel special.

When Michelle visited China in March this year, she gave a speech at Peking University and gave a speech as soon as she came up? Picky? A pair of warm hearts of Peking University. She said:? I'm here today because I know that the future depends on the connection between young people like you all over the world. We believe that the relationship between countries is not only the relationship between governments or leaders, but also the relationship between people? Especially the relationship between young people. ? A few simple words have raised the teachers and students of Peking University to a special height, which also coincides with the young people's desire for change and has quickly narrowed the distance between the two sides.

If you need to apologize,

Sean: Modesty and friendliness.

After Where's Dad Going became popular, Sean was treated like a star. Play big cards? There was a lot of noise, even during the recording of the program, because the refusal to take pictures annoyed the media! I thought this new male god would react like everyone else, either refusing to the end seriously or putting down his body to please the media. Unexpectedly, however, he used a familiar and enthusiastic sentence? When you go back to Beijing, will you treat the reporters to mala Tang? Turn verbal and written criticism into invisibility. After all, who has the face to talk to himself? Iron buddy? Care?

Deal with unsolvable problems

Li Zhaoxing: Harmless humor

As a former foreign minister, Li Zhaoxing has always been known for his wit. One year during the two sessions, a reporter asked at the press conference:? Someone asked, where is our representative? I think the contact with NPC representatives is not smooth enough. What's your comment on this? Li Zhaoxing replied:? The simpler the question, the more important it is. Where are the NPC representatives? Now they are all having a meeting in Beijing. ?

Want to win popularity

Wang Shiling: A little more than others.

"Where is Dad going?" Is a hot, Wang Shiling, the youngest, constantly joking. Looking for food in the small village, other children just thanked and said goodbye to grandpa, but Wang Shiling took grandpa's hand and said? Grandpa, you are fine at home. ? Overnight? Okay？ It became a popular word. During his trip to Jiming Island, Wang Shiling not only helped each old man divide shrimp at dinner, but also naively said to his grandparents. You won't get old after eating it. ? Although I only said a few more words, I made the lovely image of this little girl deeply rooted in people's hearts.

Fight against chat masters

Zhu Jun: Grasp the initiative quickly.

In the first issue of Art Life, Zhu Jun interviewed Yang Lan, and two masters hosted PK on the spot. As soon as Yang Lan appeared, he said:? I brought two boxes of tissues, one for you and one for me. ? Facing this sudden? Provocative? Zhu Jun quickly regained the initiative:? Boys and girls are also very particular. There are two boxes of paper towels on the table. They look much better. ?

Jump out of gossip disputes

Ma Yun: Playing? Tai Chi? The magic of

At one time, photos of celebrities such as Ma Yun visiting a famous Qigong master caused heated discussion on the Internet. In the face of such public doubts, Ma Yun responded on his Weibo. Exploration, appreciation and curiosity about the unknown are my hobbies. ? And claimed that science is not truth, but is used to prove truth. The grand and abstract answer made the question impossible, and netizens forgot to ask why Ma Yun met the master and turned to discuss whether science is truth.

Chatting skills

★ A tall attitude is not pleasing: if you talk less about superiority, the other person will be happier. The French philosopher Rossi Fargo said: If you want enemies, behave better than your friends; If you want a friend, let him behave better than you. ?

★ The more details, the better: Cai Kangyong, the host of Taiwan Province Province, emphasized this skill very much: Just say it? Shopping with your girlfriend? It's too dull,? My girlfriend and I stayed in the computer city for two hours. Finally, my girlfriend bought a camera to chat with another boy, insisting that it was fun to pay the bill, which made everyone have the desire to continue chatting.

★ the starting point of diaosi conversation: British people like to talk about the weather, because anyone can say two words. Similarly, there are life topics, such as home, gossip and clothing, which are warmer than hard topics such as work and entrepreneurship, and anyone can talk about them.

★ Grasp the scale between frankness and banter: It is certainly good to express true thoughts, but sometimes it is necessary to distinguish the scale between serious topics and banter. If people just talk about it, you will really make them feel at a loss.

★ Put down your mobile phone before chatting: Psychologists at the University of Essex in the UK pointed out that it is very hurtful to chat and play with your mobile phone while talking face to face, because the mobile phone will reduce your empathy and understanding.

Second, experts suggest five common scenarios to talk like this.

Scene 1

Colleague: I met a particularly unreliable driver today. He took me everywhere without saying anything. What if I said something to him? Who told you not to know the way? .

I am so angry!

Two answers

Then you are really out of luck. (Summative statement, aggravating the negative feelings of the other party. )

Such a driver is really irresponsible. (Give emotional support) But you learn a pit and start navigation before you get on the bus next time. (build hope, presuppose a better feeling in the future)

psychoanalysis

For friends' complaints, emotional support is the first. You need to let the other person feel your care and love, and then you can adopt the following suggestions. Because in the eyes of most people, whether emotional support can be expressed indiscriminately in the first place is a strong evidence of the strength of the relationship. In addition, when giving advice, the time dimension can be extended to the future, which can help friends alleviate the negative emotions of the present.

Scene 2

Colleague: I used new cosmetics recently, and I feel good.

Two answers

Isn't it? The one I've been using is also very good. (change the subject and be self-centered)

I said why you look so good recently. (Agree and provide positive evidence to reinforce) Which one is it? I'll check it when I go back and try next time. (In-depth topic, expressing interest and concern)

psychoanalysis

The way of chatting that always turns the topic to yourself is not pleasing. In fact, everyone wants to express themselves and get the attention of others. If this kind of attention is quickly and passively taken away, then the topic initiator will undoubtedly be unhappy, thus weakening the interest in continuing chatting. If you leave the topic at the sponsor's place, you can also pay attention to supplement the details when you respond positively, which will make people feel more credible and sincere.

Scenario 3

Colleague: I wonder who is the man with the boss? It seems very powerful.

Two answers

That's Sammy. We had dinner together last week, and he said I was the most capable clerk he had ever seen. (conspicuous statement)

Oh, that seems to be Sam. I forgot his last name. I met him in a public place last week. (Details are supplemented, but there is not much description)

psychoanalysis

Dunn, a psychologist at Columbia University, found through experiments that people can get more sense of security and pleasure from talking with strangers than familiar partners. Because in the face of strangers, our state is relatively easier, even if the other party shows off, you won't be too hurt. And among colleagues, chatting is more like an impression management strategy? Everyone wants to keep their good image. If you show off in front of acquaintances, you will undoubtedly encounter resistance. So you can use some uncertain words as modifiers to provide valuable information while maintaining a modest attitude.

Scene 4

Colleague: I hate Amy very much. She has personality problems. Last time, she borrowed 654.38 million from me, but she hasn't paid it back yet, not even mentioned it.

Two answers

Yeah, I think so. Not only does she have a bad personality, but I feel sick when I see her. (cater to, exaggerate without restraint)

Now that you mention it, I think Amy has a problem, too. (Cautiously and calmly) If she doesn't pay back the money, I think you should talk to her. (rationalization proposal)

psychoanalysis

A chat has red flowers and green leaves, some lead the conversation, and some act as performers. If you overdo it, it will make comedians at a loss. People may just complain, but the co-workers are too serious to raise the contradiction to irreconcilable heights, and the other party can't find a step if they want to come down. Therefore, it is unwise to pander blindly in chat, and it is also necessary to be rational to give emotional support.

Scene 5

Colleague: I met my ex at the cinema last week. He is with a girl. I didn't say hello to him, but I felt a little uncomfortable.

Two answers

You two should have separated a long time ago. (jump to conclusions) Is that girl as beautiful as you? (Raise threatening topics and aggravate negative emotions)

I'll be uncomfortable, too. (Empathy) Last time I met ex, I left immediately. (Details added to * * *) Do you feel better now? Pay attention to the present and your mood will sing. )

psychoanalysis

In-depth chat can always touch on more sensitive topics, such as each other's love life. In the face of this kind of problem, not judging is one of the commandments you must abide by. In most cases, the other party is not asking for advice, but seeking emotional support. Therefore, the feelings and emotions of the other party are the focus of attention, not some superficial facts, such as whether ex's new girlfriend is beautiful or not. These seminars make each other feel violated.

Public speaking is the best way to overcome fear, build self-confidence and increase personal charm. Public speaking allows you to improve your leadership, influence, build a team quickly, improve your performance and change your life!

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