How to talk to girls

Know when to approach. The first step to chasing a girl is to find the right girl. You should find a girl who looks like she's ready to meet someone new, whether it's because she's bored with her current group or simply because she wants to go out and have some fun. While you can't always tell if she wants a new companion, the more open she is, the more likely you are to succeed. Here are some clues that you should approach her:

Obviously, if she's sizing you up. If she looks at you more than once, or even smiles when you make eye contact, then she is sizing you up. If her friends are looking at you and smiling, then she—or at least one of her friends—is checking you out. Be prepared to walk through it.

If she seems bored or unhappy with her companions. Maybe she was yawning repeatedly while chatting with her girlfriend and rolling her eyes at the rowdy group of men who came with her. Come on, knight in shining armor - this is your chance to fly in and save her. If you're seeing it right, she'll love the change of pace.

If she's on a date, don't walk up to her unless it's obvious the date isn't going well. If she and her man are ever in a relationship, walk away decisively. However, if she looks like she's on a first date and she's bored, or if the guy she's with is looking at his phone all the time, if you're brave enough, walk up to her while he's out.

If she is getting together passionately with her girlfriend, don't approach her. If she's with a big group of girls, that's one thing, but if she's with just one friend and is having a fast and furious conversation without looking at anyone around her for over an hour, then she's probably very Busy talking to friends about recent events.

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Approach her with confidence. Once you've found your target, you need to let her know that you have confidence in yourself, that you love what you're doing, that you'd love to get to know her, but that it's no big deal if she rejects you. Remember, most girls know whether they want to go home with you within the first 15 minutes of conversation, so value your time. Here's how to do it:

Eye contact. First, make eye contact with her from across the room. Then, make sure that when you come to her, you have your eyes locked on her. You don't have to be creepy, but you should show that you're comfortable looking into her eyes rather than just staring at the floor or your feet.

Smile. Smiling can show your calmness and show that you are not nervous. Remember: You're happy with yourself, so even if she rejects you, you'll walk away with your head held high.

Don’t slouch or cross your arms. Let your body go - anything can happen.

Give her your full attention. Don’t get too close to her, lean into her, don’t get distracted, don’t look at your phone every five seconds—or don’t look at your phone at all.

Part of being confident is dressing appropriately. You don't have to wear expensive clothes, but they do need to fit well and look like you've showered in the morning.

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Good opening remarks. Once you approach a girl, you have to make sure you say the right things to pique her interest. If you start on the wrong footing, it may be difficult to recover. Therefore, you should try to make a good impression on her. Here's how to do it:

Relax. If you can't relax around her, she'll know it right away and move away from you. Remind yourself that the worst thing that can happen is her rejection. Will he die?

Don’t use pick-up terms. Unless you think she has a silly sense of humor, don't use cheesy pick-up terms like, "You must be tired because you occupied my mind all night." Girls don't like your lack of originality.

Clearly let her know that you are chatting with her. While you may need to appeal to her friends because their approval is important to her, you should also make it clear to her that you want to attract her attention, not just walk up to eight girls like every other guy. In front of you, just hope that any one of them likes him (even if this is your purpose, don't do this).

Direct. Simply say, "Can I join you?" Or, if she seems bored and you have the courage, just say, "Would you like to come sit with me? I'd like to buy you a drink. ”

Introduce yourself. Tell her your name and shake her hand if you want to look cute and formal.

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Get her hooked

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Make her feel like the best girl in the world. Let's face it. All girls want to feel special. Don't just say she's beautiful in a vulgar way. Instead, let her know that you think she's unique and convince her of it. Here's how to do it:

Ask questions about her. Don't pry or ask for privacy. Just ask a few questions about her, like what she likes to do, whether she likes her neighborhood, or even her favorite sports team or TV show. You also don't want to leave her thinking, "Wow, he doesn't know me at all. It's obvious he's only talking to me because of my appearance."

Ask her perspective.

Let her know you value her opinion. Ask her easy questions like what she thought of the cocktails at the bar or even if she likes your new shoes.

Don't be afraid to complain to her, even if you think she's heard it. If she's pretty, funny or has a sense of humor, tell her. If you appear casual and sincere, you won't put too much pressure on her.

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Charm her. The key to picking up a girl is not only making her enjoy talking to you, but also making her feel like, "Hey, this was great - I want more." She shouldn't just think you're talking to her in a bar interesting man and make her want to see you again in other public places. Here's how to do it:

Show her what makes you unique. Instead of showing off, tell her at least two or three things that will make her want to know more about you. Are you studying Japanese on your own? A year of motorcycle touring in Rio de Janeiro? cool. Just don't lie.

Find your common ground. Find something you have in common, whether it's your love of college basketball or Mexican food, you can talk about it. Don't make her think, "I like talking to this guy, but I don't think anything will happen because we have nothing in common."

Tell her something interesting. Show her that you are a man who reads the newspaper and knows what is going on in the world. But don't be boring, feel free to tell her something that's attracted you recently.

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Be yourself - to a certain extent. This means that you should let her know who you really are without putting on a false mask, but you should also downplay the more unique aspects of your personality until she gets to know you better, otherwise she might be You are scared. Here's how to do it:

Don't be pretentious. Don't pretend to be a guy who is popular with girls. Let her see your cool side and let her know you want to get to know her. Don't talk about all the girls in your life or she'll think, so why is he talking to me?

Show yourself. Tell her about your interests, what you did over the weekend, or mention the wonderful trip you took to Lake Tahoe with your friends. She should have a sense of who the man who was chatting with her was.

Remember, you are not with your brother. Although she will get to know you later, don't make crude jokes or the story may end with a straight-up rejection.

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Attract her with your humor. Girls like men who can make them laugh, especially if they can do it effortlessly. You should let her know that you are interesting and can keep up with her thinking. Don't let her think you're trying too hard to make her laugh, she'll just feel sorry for you. Here's how to do it:

Answer with witty banter. If she says something funny, don't just say, "That's so funny," or laugh without responding. Instead, answer something equally interesting to show that you can keep up with her thinking.

Mild teasing. If you do it right, girls will love it when you tease them. Make fun of something she says or her unique laugh. This will make your relationship more interesting.

Just kidding yourself. Don't laugh at yourself, but let her know that you don't take yourself too seriously and that you can make fun of yourself.